The Best Friends Make Better Mentors

Please mentor me, teach me, help me grow. I want to learn and explore. I want to experience more.

I learn by watching others. Their success becomes my lesson; their mistakes teach me even more. How did they get there? I want to know. My path may be different, but if they did it maybe I can too.

Early in life I learned what not to do. It was easy, I had plenty of examples.

My next door neighbor died in a drunk driving crash, on his 16th birthday. His brother was driving and four of them had gone out to celebrate, coming home drunk. They almost made it, but life was never the same again. You would think they would learn. I was 9 and I did. Driving drunk = death. Pretty easy. But a few years later one of the remaining brothers was riding a motorcycle, drunk again, almost home when he missed a turn that landed him in a wheelchair for the rest of his life.

Some people never learn. I am not one of those people.

My mother and my stepfather spent every penny as fast as it came in. They lived paycheck to paycheck, when suddenly my stepfather was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. My mother, largely unable to work due to a disability unexpectedly became the sole breadwinner, leaving them unable to keep getting by. Bills piled up unpaid, the mortgage was charged to the credit card. My mother was frantic, terrified they’d lose the house, so we helped them out and took over their mortgage. You would think they would learn. I was unintentionally the owner of 3 houses at that point and I did. Income > expenses = security. Simple. But a couple years later a bank gave them a 30 year mortgage on a condo they couldn’t afford that will be a burden on my mother for the rest of her life.

Some people never learn. I am not one of those people.

These days I want to discover more of what I should be doing instead of what I shouldn’t do. So I surround myself with people who have qualities I want to have. In this way, my friends have become my mentors, guiding me, teaching me, advising me. One friend is very spiritual, a mother whose grown children are independent but still emotionally close to her; another has retired early and spends a great deal of time travelling. One maintains a strong relationship with her family even though they’re far away; another forges her own path and lives life with gusto.

From them I am learning to be the person I want to be. From me they learn that people really can change. They’ve watched me grow. They’ve seen me bloom.

And so it turns out I am also a mentor for them. We make each other’s lives better. I want to do the same for you. I want to give to you as through my writing as much as I get from yours. I want to connect, befriend, share, and support each other however we can.

We are stronger together.

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This post is in response to the daily writing prompt Mentor

31 thoughts on “The Best Friends Make Better Mentors”

  1. Well written and so very true. It is a struggle sometimes but I try hard each to associate with the right and leave the other aside. I feel better when I do right or just that when I am down. Keep the chin up and stay positive nice lady

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  2. Wonderful post. I agree that learning from people’s mistakes is critical. As much as I want to share a beer with my husband some days, remembering how alcohol impacted my parents just will not let me. I just cannot repeat their mistakes. It’s not fair to my children.

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  3. Very good post, thank you. I also learn from others mistakes, but unfortunately we have made a ton on our own……and partially because we did not mentors to show us the way. So we tried and failed and I pray other people have seen our mistakes and thought to themselves, we don’t want to do that, because then something good will have come out of it. We keep learning and keep trying to do the right thing…………life goes by quickly and the unexpected will eventually happen to everyone.
    Keep up the good work!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment! It’s true that a lot of the reason why I’ve struggled was because I lacked a role model or mentor. I’m hoping my kids don’t have the same problem. I hope to be a mentor to them and to others who are struggling. ❤️

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