You are right it applies to men as well. I know of many events when either the wife or husband is left and has no idea what bills to pay and so forth. Good thought you have.
Agreed, men and women both, only too often both are told the exact opposite… very excellent post to share with your faithful readers, oh Published One! 🙂
Different but equally unhealthy, IMO. So much of who we think we are supposed to be gets defined by others, I suppose it is through the process of divorce that one breaks one of those paradigms and out of the breaking a more authentic being can emerge… although a busy one, with cats, and dogs, and kids, and well… all that other divorcey kind of stuff, good and bad, I guess.
Divorce was certainly the catalyst for me. For a lot of reasons I was never really sure of who I was. I think I’m starting to figure that out…Even with cats, kids and NO dogs. 😂 Most things are “good” if you look at them the right way….
Sometimes it takes things falling apart to figure out the human on the inside behind all the layers of costumes we wear to navigate through a world of expectations.
That’s a good thing… and funny, it sort of sounds selfish, but it is SO not selfish… that reassembled being does more good in one day than the other one that needed shattering.
You are right it applies to men as well. I know of many events when either the wife or husband is left and has no idea what bills to pay and so forth. Good thought you have.
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Thanks! I appreciate you joining the conversation!
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Thanks for sharing Dee. I guess you can teach an old dog new tricks ☺💜
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I don’t think we ever really stop learning…😉❤️
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I hope not ☺
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Agreed, men and women both, only too often both are told the exact opposite… very excellent post to share with your faithful readers, oh Published One! 🙂
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Yes you may now before me because I have figured out the secret! 🙏 But you’re right…Very often men and women are given very different messages….
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Different but equally unhealthy, IMO. So much of who we think we are supposed to be gets defined by others, I suppose it is through the process of divorce that one breaks one of those paradigms and out of the breaking a more authentic being can emerge… although a busy one, with cats, and dogs, and kids, and well… all that other divorcey kind of stuff, good and bad, I guess.
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Divorce was certainly the catalyst for me. For a lot of reasons I was never really sure of who I was. I think I’m starting to figure that out…Even with cats, kids and NO dogs. 😂 Most things are “good” if you look at them the right way….
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Sometimes it takes things falling apart to figure out the human on the inside behind all the layers of costumes we wear to navigate through a world of expectations.
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Very true. When the pieces come apart we get to choose how to put them back together…And now no one’s expectations are as important to me as my own.
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That’s a good thing… and funny, it sort of sounds selfish, but it is SO not selfish… that reassembled being does more good in one day than the other one that needed shattering.
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Exactly! Taking care of yourself is not a selfish thing to do (although I once absolutely thought it was)…
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Yep… totally ditto
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Brilliant…”ditto”…I’m stealing that one. 😂
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