Do you partake of all life has to offer?
I never used to have time for fun, the things that now add so much to my life. I’ve always been a voracious reader, but while I was married I never read. I love bike riding and now ride regularly, but I didn’t even own a bicycle until after my divorce. Writing has been a dream of mine, but until now I kept my stories locked in my head, mentally writing during sleepless nights.
What happened?
Well, like so many others I lost myself in that relationship. I am not blaming my ex as the responsibility lies with me, however there’s no escaping the fact I let go the parts of me that didn’t align with who he was. Honestly, I thought this was how relationships worked.
But it’s not.
Or at least it doesn’t have to be. I truly believe I can one day be in a relationship that allows me to do all the things that matter to me. It won’t be easy to find, as I’m learning a lot, possibly most, men seem to have an expectation that once a relationship begins they will become the center of my world. They may be willing to share me with my kids, that’s not negotiable; but at the same time they expect me to put everything else aside.
I’m a bit of a relationship junkie, because I’ve never been good at casual dating, and each of my relationships these past few years has followed a similar pattern.
Maybe it’s because my life is too full and there isn’t a lot of room for a relationship, or at least the kind that people seem to be expecting. I do admit I keep busy and have plans that stretch through September already. And since I’m talking with a friend about a trip to Italy next summer I guess it extends further than that. It’s not that I won’t make room for someone new, but I’m not leaving a gaping hole where a relationship fits.
So I’ve taken a break from dating while I allow myself to fully partake in other endeavors. It has helped me focus on my writing which I will be continuing; but I have other projects, other ideas I want to work on as well. Some involve writing and some are other creative concepts I want to try out.
I have plans for my future. Big plans. They’re grey and obscure right now but they are becoming clearer as I get closer to my goals. I’m starting to put together a strategy to start doing the things I’ve only to this point talked about doing. It’s exciting and not as scary as I’d imagined.
I’m making plans, buying tickets, charting a course. I’m sure I’ll be posting about it all as it comes. I’m grateful I can share this with all of you!
What big adventure will you embark on next?
This post is in response to the daily writing prompt Mallet
This is where the fun begins! Following uncharted paths and being aware of your own changes. Scary and FUN!
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Absolutely! π
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A man expecting to be the focus, the centre of a woman’s attention – heaven forbid – surely the real allure of a woman is her being her … to other things – good to hear you’re planning a trip to Italy- my all time favourite country – been many times for both work and holidays.
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Lol yeah this might not be well received by the poets out here but I do think balance is best. π Italy has been on my list for a long time. It’s going to require more than one trip!
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It’s difficult to find someone who can add to an already beautiful life. I love your comment, “Iβm not leaving a gaping hole where a relationship fits.” That’s good stuff lovely. xx To find a man that can embrace the woman that actually has her life in order, and is happy with what she has accomplished, is not the norm, but even a full life has room for more love. xx
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Exactly! You’ve summed up everything here. It’s not that there isn’t room….But it will take the right person to be part of this. So many just don’t understand it…
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Thank you love. xx I saw a meme the other day and could totally relate. It said something like, “Heck yeah! I’m single, and you’re gonna haveta be f****** amazing to change that!” I won’t settle for anything less than amazing. Much love. xx
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That’s perfect! π
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You are an amazing and remarkable woman! Your writing is showing your talent and you have a wonderful understanding of what most men are like. You need to start understanding the rest of us. I am so proud of you Dianna! βΊπ
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Haha I need more exposure to the rest of you Walt! π There are all kinds of people in the world. I know some day I’ll find someone who fits this crazy life I’m creating! ((Hug)) β€οΈ
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Hugs back π
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I’m also thinking of a trip to Italy, possibly this fall. It seems like a great destination.
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It’s definitely at the top of my list!
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As impossible as it seems there are men out there who will respect and admire and even insist that you follow your path and dreams. Do not worry what others think with you not being in a relationship. The right guy will come along or not but your life will still be as if not more fulfilling. πππππ
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β€οΈ you are absolutely right!
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Iβm excited for you! The world is your oyster, as my mother says.
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Your mother is a wise woman!
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Wow! travelling to Italy for Summers is a great idea. Bike riding, reading and working on your future plans, you do have an exciting life. More power to you girl.
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There is much I am grateful for in my life….It’s amazing all I do these days. This is just the tip of the iceberg!
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Love ur writing.. ur a strong women and writing reflects that..I just love how your trying to pursue ur talents.. your writing are full of postivity..
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Thank you! It has taken me a while to become who I am but I’m in a great place now. π
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I love the cup!
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π thanks!
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Your Welcome!
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Hmmm. Your plate is full of exciting things. Do you think there is a place for a man? π
He would definitely have to be more exciting than the exciting things you are doing. He will come when he has to. But believe me, he will curse his luck for not having met you earlier.
Italy is surely worth more than one trip.
Keep sharing your plans. It is wonderful how you have engaged so many of us through your writing.π
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There is definitely room for a man…I’ve had relationships before. But you’ve kind of pointed out the issue I’m having…None so far are as interesting as the other things I have going on. But there are definitely interesting men out there. Until then I’ve got my wonderful full life and I plan to live every moment! And if you’re willing to come along for the ride I’m all the more grateful!! πβ€οΈ
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I am always there for you Dee. π€π
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And I for you!! β€οΈπ€
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Thank you. π
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