Honestly, I want to know.
If you know how to filter out all the meaningless, useless chatter on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any other platform…please let me know. I know my friends, my contacts, my connections, are creating meaningful posts. I just can’t seem to find them amid the gossip, the whining, the complaining, the ranting.
I truly value friendship and in an attempt to maintain a connection with the people that have come into my life I connect with them on these platforms, but then I fail to follow through. I scroll through Facebook looking for an important message, something personal and relevant to the people I care about. But I give up after scrolling through the ads and the “what I had for dinner” posts, the check-ins that let everyone know exactly where you are every minute of every day.
I’ve connected with people from around the US and even different countries, including some friends I made a couple years ago in Spain, but I can’t find their posts among the insignificant, inconsequential information that seems to be so important to everyone.
I just don’t have time to read about every moment. I honestly, sincerely care about these people but I just can’t. Am I the only one?
So many are using these platforms to validate their anger; to justify their rants; to commiserate with others. And with each “like” of these negative messages we are rewarding our friends for complaining about their bad day, their bad luck, their misfortune. We don’t want to tell them publicly that their whining will only bring them more things to complain about. We don’t tell them how good they are becoming at moaning and groaning, instead of taking action. We don’t want to seem critical so we don’t suggest that they look for something positive. Instead we “like” their post or we give them the teary-eyed emoji to let them know we care, and we scroll down to the next tirade, perhaps someone complaining about the government this time.
I had taken a break from social media, almost entirely cut myself off, and yet I miss these connections and want to find a better way. I know others do it. It’s possible, perhaps I just need to learn how.
This post is in response to the daily writing prompt Froth