I grew up believing there was one right path for everyone. I believed the goal was to make enough money to pay for the necessities of life, to survive and maybe have a little extra for fun; but fun was optional, something “nice to have” if you can afford it after all the bills are paid.
I was told to get good grades in school, work hard in college and find a nice safe job working for someone else. Getting married and having kids was also set in stone, something that had to be done. In my mind, there was just this one road to take. There was no other way.
But as I grew and changed, as I met people who have chosen a different direction I’ve become aware of the unimaginable opportunity that exists for everyone. The more I learn, the more open I become. The more I learn, the more I want for me, for my girls, for my friends, and now, suddenly, for everyone else.
When I started writing just a short 6 weeks ago, my plan was inchoate. I hate using fancy words to describe something so basic, but this word is so apt it can’t be helped. I had thought the plan I’d developed was fully formed, the “right” thing to do; but I’ve discovered how incomplete it truly is. It was completely rudimentary compared to where my writing might take me.
See, I was still working under the assumption that there was a “right” path to follow. I still thought that if I just researched and learned the process of being a successful writer, blogger, investor, homeowner, gardener, mother, friend, whatever…that I would then be successful. I still believed life was a mathematical equation to be solved; a science project where the right inputs would get the results you desired.
But it’s not.
I’m starting to understand that the best path really is to remain inchoate; to keep any plan undeveloped so you remain open to every single possibility; start in a direction but know you might end up someplace completely unexpected.
And so I persist with my writing, because for the first time I feel I am doing what I am meant to be doing. I have chosen a direction but I am open to every impossible opportunity that presents itself along the way.
This post is in response to the daily writing prompt Inchoate
Bravo. Good use of the prompt. But, did you have to look it up? If not, you have a better vocabulary than I do!!!
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Haha I absolutely has to look up this one 😂 thanks for reading!
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I can identify with much of what you’ve written here. I too have tried to live by the plan for much of my life. It’s only recently that I’ve become more open to new possibilities, an almost fatalistic approach of what will be will be and it’s written in the stars way of life!
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Exactly! But there are so many other possibilities! 😊
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Lovely use of the prompt. My inchoate knowledge of poetry writing has me looking for inspiration everywhere and my muse has deserted me!😥😂
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Lol today’s prompt wasn’t an easy one to fit in! I wasn’t sure when I started writing that the word would actually make it into the piece. Technically the prompt just needs to inspire the writing…I was looking for a loophole but in the end it fit
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It did indeed.
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Hello Lady, I have nominated you for the Sunshine Award. Your blog is truly inspirational… https://wp.me/p7nQXv-3f8
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❤️ thank you! I’ll work on this over the weekend!
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I can completely relate to this. Wonderful post! 🙂
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Thank you!
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My pleasure! 😉
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A great perspective! We change and grow… We are dynamic and powerful in our ability to choose. 🙂
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So true! And honestly sometimes I love the surprise of ending up someplace completely unexpected 😁
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You have changed so much from when you first started. You keep getting better and better! I love following your progression. You are blooming like a lovely spring flower. Hugs to you dear Dianna ☺❤
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Thank you Walt! I’m really enjoying writing…More than I ever thought I would. And I am grateful it connected me with you! ❤️
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Me too 💜
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